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Derek Lakin's avatar

While it's often only beautiful in the rearview mirror, grief can provide the ego-shattering we need to step into our authenticity.

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A Gentle Unfolding's avatar

Absolutely - to the ego shattering! And learning to befriend it with grace, to allow its unraveling can be beautiful in its way

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Sarah - Goddess in Training's avatar

I have read that the veil is thinnest for people who are grieving. I continue to meditate on the role emotion plays in connecting to collective consciousness. Thank you for this piece.

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A Gentle Unfolding's avatar

I relate to the veil being thinnest while grieving! I have experienced that. Thank you! <3

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Soil & Soul's avatar

Your piece reminds me of the importance of death and rebirth in nature, and illuminates how I can embrace it through grief. Thank you deeply for this Tulika.

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A Gentle Unfolding's avatar

Thank you for this wisdom! Yes, embracing the big but also the small deaths continually to usher in the new things being born - that is the way of being I am allowing myself to embrace

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Nelian Kar's avatar

The most profound and true thing I've read for a long time !

I am convinced that a lot of our growth comes from being able to look into the mirror and see what we don't want to see : that some part of us has to die; that some chapter has to be closed; that we need to make space for something new to come.

It sounds silly but it is the key to unlock everything. I like how you put it : "underlying grief". This thing that most of humanity tries to run from.

The process invariably involves to take a step back and see where the demon is, as Jung would put it. To look where the eyes are not. Live and let die.

And then we react differently. And we act differently.

Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

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A Gentle Unfolding's avatar

Thank you for the beautiful reflection, Nelian! It warms my heart to see the resonance

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KC Taylor's avatar

Yes! I write about making peace with my inner shit-talker. https://substack.com/@revkctaylor

I think we change the system by giving ourselves space to feel, shift, recognize the truth about our inner wisdom and trust it to guide us.

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A Gentle Unfolding's avatar

Resonate with that, KC! Thank you!

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Patrick Leggett's avatar

It’s kind of like opening your bellybutton window❤️🖖🏽✌🏼

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A Gentle Unfolding's avatar

:) Thank you for that image!

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Amanda Provenzano M.S., LMT's avatar

Yes, I am experiencing this now.

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A Gentle Unfolding's avatar

Sending support and strength your way. I hope you are able to tune into the wisdom this carries and alchemize it <3

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Raf's avatar

Hi Tulika

Beautiful piece nicely putted together. Personally, it offered me a different perspective for such difficult times in life. For me, i always thought, and still think is my biggest issue at those moments, it’s the fear of my new version that is developing and I feel pushed through, kinda not wanting to accept the new chapter and not wanting to let go of the now old one, I know that’s something that I must go through, but it’s the lack of control of this new habit that always make me suffer. How can we make possible a connection between this feeling and the grief that you described?

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A Gentle Unfolding's avatar

What a ripe question, Raf! In my experience it is all about expanding our capacity to stay with the discomfort of it all. We live in a world that gives us so many avenues to turn away, to distract ourselves and to suppress what needs to be felt. Just creating space for ourselves to *feel* what needs to be felt can be deeply healing

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Raf's avatar

You’re so right, thank u!

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